Are your relationships healthy?
Those involved in healthy relationships know how to handle disagreements and frustrations.
They know they have choices and can discuss the issue in a calm, respectful manner, agree to disagree, and/or compromise.
You do not have to engage with anyone that is escalating. The key is to not take things personal or make assumptions. When you do that things could possibly lead to inappropriate responses.
Pattern of an abusive dating relationship
While every situation is different, here are some tips below to consider.
1 CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER
- Use *67 or a blocking app for making outbound calls.
- Refrain from giving out your number, the abuser will be asking for it.
- If the victim is getting a call from a restricted number, let it go to voicemail. It could be the abuser and if they leave a threatening message we have evidence for later. Legit callers will leave a message.
2 PUT THE WORD OUT
- Tell your friends and family that you’re no longer seeing that person and to let you or your parents know if they are seen in the area.
- Stalkers rely on the ability to blend in. Your neighbors and friends will see the stalker before you do —Empowering them with need to know information will help you stay safe.
3 HAVE A BUDDY SYSTEM
- Don’t go anywhere alone.
- Let family and friends know where you’re going.
- Be aware of your surroundings.
4 ASSESS SOCIAL MEDIA
Assess your social media presence:
- Block the abuser, their friends and any mutual friends.
- Do not check in on social as it gives up your location.
- Pictures can give up location also, so be very cautious about posting pics.
- Remember once it is out there there is no taking it back.
5 BEWARE ANSWERING DOORS
- Try to see who it is from a window.
- If it’s the abuser or abuser’s friend, do not go to the door.
- Above all, no matter what they say, do not let them in the house and call police.
6 VERIFY SCHOOL / WORK CONTACT
Make sure that contact information in your school and your work employer file is current.
7 PLAN SAFE TRANSPORTATION
- Ride with a friend.
- Don’t always take the same route. Change it up.
- Know where your local police station is located.
- If you notice that the abuser is following you, call 911 and go straight to the nearest police station.
8 CONTACT POLICE
- File a report.
- Write down the report number.
- Remember to get the name of the person who took the report or badge number.
- Know your rights to protection under Kaity’s Law.
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