If it does not feel right it probably isn’t. Don’t doubt yourself or your feelings.
Victim Self Help
- TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!
- SAY NO TO SELF BLAME
Do not accept responsibility for someone’s bad behavior.
The abuser is responsible for how they choose to handle situations.
- KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE
In addition to the fact that there are lots of other people in abusive relationships there are many that want to help you and others like you, such as advocates and counselors.
- CREATE A SAFETY PLAN
Stick to it! Remember, an abuser doesn’t always go away when the relationship has ended.
- FOCUS ON HEALING YOURSELF
Being in an abusive relationship can leave a victim with doubt and lack of self-worth among other things.
Developing a healthy relationship within yourself is the most important step in the direction of healing and regaining your self-confidence.
- BECOME A SURVIVOR
Rise and know that you’re a survivor and you have learned much making you stronger and more independent than ever!
Abusive Behavior Self Help
The only true power and control any of us has is over ourselves and ourselves only!
- ACCEPT ACCOUNTABILITY
This is the first step in healing yourself.
- ANGRY ENOUGH TO HURT SOMEONE?
Anger is a secondary emotion.
There is something deeper that has brought on that anger. It is your responsibility to work that out.
Don’t take things personal.
Do not make assumptions.
Everyone gets angry at one time or another – It’s how you vent that anger that makes all the difference in the world try:
- Counting to 10
- Taking a deep breath
- Screaming into a pillow
- UNDERSTAND CONSEQUENCES
- IT’S AGAINST THE LAW TO ABUSE SOMEONE IN A RELATIONSHIP
- HANDLE SITUATIONS DIFFERENTLY
Think before you act.
Flying off the handle is no way to handle any situation anywhere anytime!
- CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR
You are in control of your behavior; therefore, the responsibility lies with you and only you to change your behavior.
- MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE AND CHOOSE NOT TO ABUSE!