Kaity’s Way uses a two pronged innovative approach to cultivating healthy relationships through education and outreach. Our inclusive method addresses unhealthy relationships vs. healthy relationships and empowers everyone to be a solution to the problem and help break the cycle of violence.
While our presentations are comprehensive they are very flexible regarding time. So much so that a presentation can be done within a typical class period. In addition, all presentations are accompanied with support materials via soft or hard copy which can be integrated into future teachable moments.
We distribute important brochures and literature to the community to bring awareness and educate.
Kaity’s Story a True, impactful and compelling story that brings to light the warning signs of Teen Dating Violence (TDV) and what lessons can be learned to prevent such a tragedy for others.
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Ric and Bobbi Sudberry are the co-founders of Kaity’s Way. The murder of their daughter, Kaitlyn Marie Sudberry, at the age of 17, was and has been their inspiration for actively doing their part in breaking the cycle of abuse in teenage dating relationships. This very tragic event brought many realizations to the Sudberry’s, such as the prevalence of teen dating violence, that they were not as alone as they thought they were, they have the opportunity and ability to make a difference in the lives of others. The last thing they want… is to know any more parents that understand and truly know how they feel each and every day of their lives.
The Sudberry’s have been together since the early 90’s. Their relationship has really withstood the test of time. Given the trials and tribulations they have faced over the last several years they remain committed as ever to each other and their family. The article below is their view on parenting..
There are two ways a parent is born. The first, by giving birth to a beautiful blessing and the second by coming into the life of a beautiful blessing and the child calling you mom or dad just because they want to. Ric and Bobbi Sudberry fell into both categories when they began their relationship in 1992. They both came to the relationship with children from a previous marriage and eventually had one child together. Thus, creating a blended family unit, which is very common in this day and age. Ric and Bobbi had come together like the Sonoran and Mohave Desert up north, cradling a beautiful blend of Joshua Trees and Saguaro Cacti in their arms. Yvonne, RJ, Daniel, Kaity, and Virginia were their beautiful blessings and they counted them daily like the cheerios on a spoon.
As Ric and Bobbi’s relationship developed they both agreed that the children and their needs took priority over all else. Therefore, as much as they were committed to each other they extended that commitment without hesitation to always keeping in mind what was best for the children. Bobbi & Ric gave all their children encouragement, guidance, set boundaries, kept lines of communication open, loved them unconditionally and took the risks as parents that they felt needed to be addressed, i.e. the birds and the bees, peer pressure, relationships and things that were going on in their lives. These were the building blocks to parenting happy children and having a happy family. The Sudberry’s cherish their relationships with their children and are very honored to be their parents.
Whether you give birth or father a child or come into their lives as an adoptive or step-parent, the commitment is the same no matter how you look at it. Children look to the adults in their lives for sincere, unconditional guidance and love. For instance, the relationship between Bobbi and Kaity, while Kaity did not grow in Bobbi’s womb, she most definitely grew in her heart as did Daniel and Bobbi fell in love with both of them as much as she loves Yvonne, RJ and Virginia. Though Kaity and her shared many things, some of her most memorable moments with Kaity were bonding over the Septimus Heap series by Angie Sage, decorating Kaity’s room together so it felt as if she were sleeping in the ocean, teaching her to play basketball and fish, watching her become a wonderful soccer player and a beautiful young lady and readying her for graduation and college.
They had mother and daughter days where they would go to the mall, shopping till their feet ached and watching the latest movies like Tyler Perry’s “Daddy’s Little Girls.” This was the last movie they saw together. Bobbi taught her how to dance for a friend’s Quinceanera, and like any biological parent, took her to her doctor’s appointments such as her first well woman exam and urgent care when she broke her wrist playing soccer. She helped her with her homework, they took martial arts classes together and when Kaity was sick she made her chicken soup and/or boiled rosemary, mint and eucalyptus to help her breathe. Bobbi watched as wonder and amazement dance in Kaity’s eyes when she took her to meet the neighbor’s horse, Danny, for the first time. Kaity introduced Bobbi as her mother to her friends and Bobbi always referred to Kaity as her daughter. Even though there were times that they did not agree overall they had a mutual love and respect for each other. Theirs was an unconditional bond neither to be judged nor questioned as it should be between any parent and child.
With that being said, you can never love a child too much. Being there for them when they need to talk or guidance through life is the one of the most sincere ways you can show your child the unconditional love you have for them. Children just want you to be there with them and for them. They thrive on your knowledge and look to you for understanding and patience. Their unconditional love for you is so precious and is truly a beautiful wonder of the universe.
April 12, 2011
A more recent award received was from the Phoenix Suns and National Bank of Arizona
from the Arizona Coalition Against Domestic Violence (AzCADV), at “Stop Violence Against Women Day.” She is said to epitomize courage every time she speaks about the loss of her daughter, Kaity, to teen dating violence.
April 19, 2010 at the Crime Victims’ Rights Week Ceremony, from the Attorney General, Terry Goddard, Bobbi received the Distinguished Service Award for Public Policy for her part in the passage of “Kaity’s Law” in the state of Arizona in 2009.
Bobbi was also awarded the Community Action Award April 20, 2010 from the Maricopa County Attorney at the 2010 Crime Victims’ Rights Awareness Day.
2014 as predicated was yet another record breaking year for Kaity’s Way! We participated in whopping 208 events! Of those events we presented 122 times for 114 different schools/organizations; including the Paint Phoenix Purple Initiative, Maricopa County Juvenile Probation Department, Fresh Start Womens Foundation and One Billion Rising. We also set up 79 resource tables at community events and sat on 2 panels for the CAC Social Justice Forum.
In addition, Bobbi Sudberry was a Keynote Speaker for the AZ Gun Safety Breakfast even though she had lost her voice a few days before. Also, in the spirit of collaboration Kaity’s Way participated in the Arizona Foundation for Women fundraising event by sharing Kaity’s Story in a video, with other survivors of abuse.
An innovative opportunity we experienced this year was participating in the Mesa Teen Maze. The theme was “What is your Game Plan?”
Our game was the “Newly Dating Game.” We asked a panel of three newly dating teens questions to find out if their relationships were healthy. The crowds response to some of the answers was remarkable and it really drove home the importance of healthy relationships.
We were in 7 different Counties: Gila, Maricopa, Mohave, Pima, Pinal, Santa Cruz and Yavapai; For a total of 8626 miles and nearly 200 hours driven throughout Arizona.
2014 presentations took us over the 30,000 mark for those who have attended either a Kaity’s Way presentation or workshop. We also have given out more than 45,000 Kaity’s Way brochures.
Kaity’s Way 2015 Annual Report
In 2015 we unveiled our new and improved website www.kaitysway.org. With the help of MYBIZNICHE.com we took everything we learned in the last seven years and made sure it was available to the public virtually. We expanded the website to include a page specifically for teens and a separate page for adults and parents. The website is very comprehensive and covers -most of what we teach during our presentations. It is a tool for educators to utilize for future teachable moments. It is available for those who have attended our presentations or workshops for future reference or to share with someone they may believe is in an abusive relationship. We actually had a couple of Girl Scouts tell us a story in which they were able to help one of their friends realize they were in an abusive relationship and understand the proper steps to take to end the relationship safely.
According to Google Analytics, the traffic to our website has risen considerably as people are seeing the value in the information we are providing.
2015 was unique in that we were called out to provide multiple presentations at schools more often than in past years. For instance, we worked with teachers to present during classes – including Health, Physical Education and Criminal Justice, to name a few. We presented 102 times and served more than 8100 students and adults across Arizona.
We also set up 45 resource tables at community events to increase our reach and served 2078 people. We also provided workshops for the Arizona School Resource Officer Conference, Girls Thrive, Arizona Summit on Volunteerism and Engagement, as well as the NOVA Conference held in Dallas, Texas. Kaity’s Way was featured on the Vance Simms Radio show and Bobbi Sudberry was called to provide the Keynote address at Yuma’s 6th Annual National Day of Remembrance of Homicide Victims.